When It’s No One’s Fault But You Want It To Be

It’s painful to watch. The itching, clawing, bleeding of my son’s eczema. It tugs on my compassion, but it pulls harder on my anger. I hate that sound, the furious scraping of fingernails across the skin, the catclaw marks they leave behind. And not just occasionally, or seasonally, or even for a month-long stretch. It’s … Continue reading When It’s No One’s Fault But You Want It To Be

The Toxic Church And Why We Still Need Confession

Two weeks ago, my husband preached about confession and its healing qualities at church. Afterward, I was like, "Babe, that was heavy." It bothered me a little that I thought of confession in such a dark light. During morning prayer earlier this week, I asked God to talk to me about confession and what it was … Continue reading The Toxic Church And Why We Still Need Confession

The One Reason Jesus Might Be Mad At You

The preacher at my childhood church used to yell during his sermons. I remember being scared of him. But it was a charismatic church in the 80s, and maybe that's how God talked back then. I've been nervous to hear from God most of my life, and perhaps my old pastor is to blame. I … Continue reading The One Reason Jesus Might Be Mad At You

It’s a Good Thing You Are Such a Mess

Jesus said the messiest people are the best at love.The most screwed up, bad-choice making, dirty wake-leaving grimy ones among us get love better than the squeaky clean ones. Why?"She who has been forgiven much loves much."When Mary made an appalling show of her love and gratitude for Jesus in a mess of hair, tears … Continue reading It’s a Good Thing You Are Such a Mess

The Power of Gentleness

Maybe you don't know the power of gentleness, but God does. And God is dealing with you gently. It's a start contrast between how we treat ourselves. We often handle ourselves with aggression and frustration, throwing ourselves around the room, even threatening ourselves if we can't change, stop screwing up, get it right. But Jesus … Continue reading The Power of Gentleness

The Wound That Hung On and When I Finally Forgave

{Today I'm following up to Tiffany Roney's guest post, Just Apply Compassion. I meant to get these thoughts to you Friday, as I said I would, but I've been fighting a doozy, hanger-on sickness over here so this was my first day to get it to you. I apologize for the tardiness. Her ideas really … Continue reading The Wound That Hung On and When I Finally Forgave

Just Apply Compassion {A Guest Post}

{Today we hear from journalist and blogger Tiffany Roney on the topic of forgiveness and a little secret she learned to let go of pain and hurt. When she sent this post to me a few weeks ago, I had no idea it would powerfully work its way into my life with perfect timing. Tomorrow I … Continue reading Just Apply Compassion {A Guest Post}