What do you do when you’ve tried everything?

Have you ever had a dream that you try to make happen on your own but it just won't work? You try everything you know to do: you apply, you work-work-work, you pray, you talk to people who have done it, you cry yourself to sleep and shout at the ceiling, you give up and try … Continue reading What do you do when you’ve tried everything?

What Your Self Talk Says About You? 

More than your job, your fashion or your friends, your self talk says a lot about you. Your self talk is the secret to your standards, your expectations, dreams and hopes. Your self talk is the expression of your emotional experience. Your self talk is constantly narrating, interpreting and creating your world. Your self talk … Continue reading What Your Self Talk Says About You? 

Two Quick Ways To Derail Your Destiny

Most of us lack balance in our pursuit of goals and dreams. We tend toward one side of the work spectrum, either as a do-it-myself laborer or a hands-off fatalist. The first person takes too much responsibility. She sees her goal or dream as her own responsibility. She believes God gave her the job, and she'd … Continue reading Two Quick Ways To Derail Your Destiny

Everyone Is Not A Winner

Everyone is not a winner. Sorry. I have no idea who made that up, but it is pure crazy. That statement is based on the belief that trying is all that matters, but it sets us up for constant disappointment and confusion because it doesn't answer the essential questions: What is my/our personal/corporate mission? Did … Continue reading Everyone Is Not A Winner

Two Questions That Changed My Life In 2013

A year ago, I was starting over. Just like we all are this week. The gift of a new year. I didn't feel good about it though. I could feel the tension between the life I was living and the life I could live, although it wasn't totally clear what I really wanted. So I … Continue reading Two Questions That Changed My Life In 2013

I am the opposite of me

I am a paradox. And so are you. We are clean and shiny in some areas of ourselves, yet disheveled disasters in others. The real estate of our souls and our yards is impeccable from one angle, and painfully unkempt from another. How is it that we can live with coexisting brilliance and ignorance, with generous … Continue reading I am the opposite of me

When in doubt

I've mentioned before I was quite neurotic as a child, nervous and over-analyzing. Afraid to be wrong. That's still me, but the stakes are higher. I'm not just deciding which clothes will make me popular. Now I'm choosing financial investments and career moves. Big stuff. My mind swirls with great ideas and good intentions, things … Continue reading When in doubt

Redefining the News

There's a moment when we learn the news and disappointment sets in. Fear digs a hole and takes root. We wonder alone or aloud how we will make it work. But this is also moment of great opportunity, a chance to give time to the things I've been neglecting: writing, family, God, new developments. There … Continue reading Redefining the News

New Year’s Vis-olutions: Learning to Dream Bigger

I know it's already Wednesday, January 16. And you think I forgot to talk about vision, goals and resolutions for the New Year. But I did not. I was quietly refining my hopes and dreams in my head and in conversations with God and with Josh. Because this is scary, grand and wonderful stuff here. … Continue reading New Year’s Vis-olutions: Learning to Dream Bigger

How Does She (Not) Do It?

I'm not going to lie. Sometimes when I'm in self-pity mode, I wonder why more people don't ask me how I do it. I am a hundred things to many people, or at least six things to hundreds of people. My weeks are planned before I even get to them. I don't really do spontaneous anymore. … Continue reading How Does She (Not) Do It?