I know as an empowered women of the new millennium, I am secretly supposed to be annoyed with the Proverbs 31 woman, the uber-successful, have-it-all-in-perfect-balance icon we can never possibly emulate in real life. She was the quintessential female, the Giselle Bundchen of 4000 years ago. (Thanks a lot, King Lemuel, whoever you are.) But every time I read … Continue reading I Know Why The Proverbs 31 Woman Is Laughing
Cross-cultural studies are regular academic fare at our house. So much so, we consider ourselves multi-cultural. That is, if you consider a toddler living with two adults culture blending. Which we do. Our home is a case study in a family made of people from the same ethnicity, yet somehow, different cultures. Any time you're … Continue reading How to speak Toddler: A cross-cultural education
If you are a parent, or you have ever been around a toddler, you know they have these obsessions. Compulsions. These "I can't help myself" moments. While endearing the first six times they pose a nonsensical request, in only a matter of seconds the charm wears thin and suddenly, I'm shouting, "NO!" with all my … Continue reading No more cookies. No, really. Okay, fine.
Two weeks ago, I took a crazy challenge. But it was about time. Inspired by the brave mom at The Orange Rhino, I committed not to yell at my son for 365 days. With certain caveats, like safety and distance, of course. That was 14 days ago. So now it's confession time, right? How have I actually … Continue reading Anger management: how it’s going out here
A couple weeks ago, I wrote about anger. My anger. The kind that fills me up with sadness and regret. The kind I dive into in the moment and feel I'm drowning in the next. Since I wrote about it, read about anger from other moms and started paying attention to my volume and emotion, … Continue reading Anger Management for Moms: the 365 Day Challenge
Motherhood is teaching me a lot about my human-hood. And it hurts. I face off against the frayed and tasseled ends of my patience and goodness every time my voice shouts too loud, or when my son's unexplainable need to fish in the toilet stirs up my ugly, unreasonable side. I don't like that girl … Continue reading How to feel like a good mom when you tuck yourself in
There are many days where I feel like a strange version of a woman. Being a working mom will do that to you. It can be confusing. Mix in the fact that my son does not go to childcare but stays home with his dad, which is great and I am thankful, but this complicates … Continue reading 9 reasons I like being a mom
How come I do not know how to be a mom? How come there is not a book that describes motherhood for my personality and lifestyle? How come there is not a drug to calm me down? How come there are not enough hours in a day? How come there is guilt no matter what? … Continue reading How come it’s so hard?
I was a strange child when I was one. Entrepreneurial, calculated but energetic, friendly but frequently shy, precocious and childish. I never quite felt like I knew where to fit. I talked too much most of the time, just to fill the silence. And it annoyed people. I know because they told me. I was … Continue reading When it feels like your kid is really you
"Don't wait to be the Mom or Dad you want to be for your child. Why are you waiting? Why am I waiting? Our kids need us to be that person now. Let's at least try."