My husband and I experienced quite a bit of conflict in our early years of marriage, and it could be distilled down to one reason: our love languages. He experiences love through encouraging words and acts of service. I feel loved from quality time and physical touch. The short story is these differences initially created … Continue reading Two Words That Will Change Your Marriage
The morning I walked through the door into my friend’s second floor apartment, I wasn’t prepared. There he was, kneeling on the carpeted floor of their kitchen with a fuzzy haired baby girl whom he met only hours before. The baby’s two older brothers bounced on couch cushions and half-heartedly watched Guardians of the Galaxy … Continue reading In Praise of Crappy Hospitality, Or Why I’m Finally Having My Neighbors Over
I was already going to be late, and I knew it. Skimming through the house, I tried to piece together all my essentials before running out the door for work: purse, phone, coffee. And then I saw them. The dishes, stacked precariously in the sink, grimy and forlorn. Waiting patiently for me. I glanced at … Continue reading In Our Relationships, The Small Things Are The Big Things
When we were dating, the infatuating love I felt for my husband was intense. It started strong and only grew. As if an electric force field radiated from him, the closer I got, the weaker my knees, the quicker my heart rate. The day we married, we exchanged vows, and something magical happened. I could … Continue reading Sometimes I’m Not In Love With My Husband
“Who is going to take John to school?” I glared over my shoulder in my husband’s general direction, hoping he would overhear the question I pretended to ask no one. “Are you wanting me to take him?” My husband, reading at the end of the table, already showered and dressed in his cardigan and jeans, appeared surprised. … Continue reading If Your Partner Can’t Read Your Mind, Try This Instead.
Hi, my name is Sarah, and I am a Recovering Mother. For years, I was Everyone Else’s Mom, but I never took care of myself. I thought this was noble. I assumed this meant I sacrificed more than others. I believed having my phone on 24/7 sent the message I cared more for others than I did … Continue reading Why Not Taking Care of Yourself Is Selfish
The one thing in your life more powerful than your circumstances is your self-talk. Your self-talk is always with you, commenting on, observing and interpreting the happenings around you and inside you. Surprisingly though, we rarely recognize that we are narrating our own lives. We assume the thoughts we think about ourselves, others and the … Continue reading One Simple Way to Change Everything
I don't know if you're like me, but I've had a bad habit most of my life. It's called procrastination. It seems like one of the most common complaints my friends and clients have about themselves. We all do it and yet, we hate that we do it. What's up with that, right? See, procrastination … Continue reading The Sneaky Truth about Perfectionism
Have you ever had a dream that you try to make happen on your own but it just won't work? You try everything you know to do: you apply, you work-work-work, you pray, you talk to people who have done it, you cry yourself to sleep and shout at the ceiling, you give up and try … Continue reading What do you do when you’ve tried everything?
More than your job, your fashion or your friends, your self talk says a lot about you. Your self talk is the secret to your standards, your expectations, dreams and hopes. Your self talk is the expression of your emotional experience. Your self talk is constantly narrating, interpreting and creating your world. Your self talk … Continue reading What Your Self Talk Says About You?