Why Not Taking Care of Yourself Is Selfish

Hi, my name is Sarah, and I am a Recovering Mother. For years, I was Everyone Else’s Mom, but I never took care of myself. I thought this was noble. I assumed this meant I sacrificed more than others. I believed having my phone on 24/7 sent the message I cared more for others than I did … Continue reading Why Not Taking Care of Yourself Is Selfish

How Tradition Heals The World

This year more than ever, I am thankful for tradition. Not so much the ritual of it, but what it means. It's a coming up for air, a gasp of relief.  During the past year, I overcame a debilitating perspective of God and the world, life inside a tormented mind, a world I had never … Continue reading How Tradition Heals The World

How To Save Your Soul

My friend, the warm-hearted and generous author and pastor, Steve Wiens, invited me over to his place to share about my practices of soul-care. You can read this post in its entirety there, or get started here. Steve is releasing his first book, Beginnings, on January 1st next year. This book is full of his … Continue reading How To Save Your Soul

When It’s No One’s Fault But You Want It To Be

It’s painful to watch. The itching, clawing, bleeding of my son’s eczema. It tugs on my compassion, but it pulls harder on my anger. I hate that sound, the furious scraping of fingernails across the skin, the catclaw marks they leave behind. And not just occasionally, or seasonally, or even for a month-long stretch. It’s … Continue reading When It’s No One’s Fault But You Want It To Be

I Don’t Have An Anger Problem, Unless You Are Four Years Old

Tonight was one of those nights where I wanted to quit motherhood. Like seriously, quit and walk away. Quit because it is so hard and clearly, whatever I am doing is not working. I still feel like a broken mother. And earlier, giving up seemed like the better, wiser option because I can't do this. I … Continue reading I Don’t Have An Anger Problem, Unless You Are Four Years Old

When You Think You’re Never Going To Get Better

Today I talked with a mama friend who's been anxious and scared for a long while. She's tired of fighting this fight with her mind. I know this feeling so well. There were days in the worst of my paralyzing paranoia where I wanted to just give up. I didn’t want to die, really, but … Continue reading When You Think You’re Never Going To Get Better

Help and Healing For The Anxious Mother

I never saw it coming. The anxiety from this past year. I'd heard of postpartum mood disorders, but knew it would never happen to me. Not with my mental health training, my pastor-husband and my strong faith. Not with my friends all around me to support me. Not me. Even my second birth itself was beautiful … Continue reading Help and Healing For The Anxious Mother

There’s No Such Thing As Perfect (Until You’re Dead)

There is no such thing as perfect. There is no such as a perfect child, a perfect hairstyle, a perfect front yard, a perfect job. There is no perfect score. No perfect performance. There are no perfect husbands, and no perfect wives. There is no such thing as a perfect dad or mom. There are … Continue reading There’s No Such Thing As Perfect (Until You’re Dead)

What We Mean When We Say We’re Busy

I used to think I was busy, and I used to think that made me important. The busier, the important-er I was. Or so I thought. When people stopped by my office, they'd apologize for taking my time. They told me they knew I was busy but they would make it quick. I find myself doing … Continue reading What We Mean When We Say We’re Busy

Tell Them What To See

We took John to the museum a few weeks ago. I was afraid it might go badly. He is only four, after all. He might break something, throw a tantrum, embarrass me somehow. But I craved the creative. So we went anyway.  When we walked through the doors, genius struck. Instead of clutching his hand … Continue reading Tell Them What To See